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Last week, at lunch time, I was in a restaurant, and
at the table next to me, there was obviously a business deal going
on between a young sales person and a middle-aged business executive.
In
between vegetarian lasagne for her and osso bucco for him, she was
doing a good job. He was agreeing that the figures she had presented
made good commercial sense. The body language was excellent. You
could see he was ready to move all his business from his present supplier
to her company.
When, guess what happened? Her mobile phone, sitting
on the table in front of her, rang. And, yes, she answered it! She
spoke for about 30 seconds answering a query from someone at her
office.
Now let me add here, that the mobile is a mighty aid
to business. Any of us who has observed phone technology advance from
the
hand-cranked Bakelite to the pocket-sized whiz of today that even
takes photos,
will gladly confirm it is a communication boon.
But if not used
correctly, it can bring on disaster.
It’s strange, isn’t
it? Even after all these years, when a phone rings, there is still
a tremendous urge to answer
it. We want
to know who is calling us, even though we could just as
easily let it go to the message bank. We want to feel important, to
savour the
feeling that the person on the other end needs us to help
them through the day.
So what could our lunch-time sales person
have done? Please don’t
say, “Have the phone on ‘silent’, so
she could check the screen to see who it was.” One
look, and you lose the other party.
Let us consider some
simple mobile phone etiquette when
you are in a meeting, whether with two or two hundred
people:
- Turn off your mobile, and double-check to make sure it is
off. Do not have it on ‘silent’. Have the courtesy
to broadcast the message to your work-mates, clients, friends
and family
that the meeting is now the most important event and has your
full attention. Leaving the phone on says that any call carries
more weight
than the meeting and shows little respect for the others.
- “What
if it’s an important call I’m expecting?” I
hear you say. Don’t kid yourself! The graveyard is full
of people who considered themselves indispensable. My experience
in running
and attending meetings is that the more important the individual
is, the less likely he or she is to have a phone on. Seldom
does a mobile
ring in a Board Meeting, and I don’t see Rupert Murdoch,
acknowledged for his spectacular wheeler-dealer use of the phone,
with one attached
to his ear when presenting the latest figures to shareholders.
- Human
nature, being what it is, you might forget to turn off your
mobile. Should it ring, switch it off immediately. Do not
look
to see who it is. This sends the message that there might be something
more important than the meeting. Having turned it off, apologise
for having inadvertently left it on.
- Indeed, don’t even leave your mobile
sitting on the table, even if it is turned off. It distracts the other parties,
starting
them
thinking you might use it at any moment, indicating that they
are secondary. Sometimes, too, it tempts people to play with
it and want
to turn it on! If you are not going to use it, why display it?
Many years ago I was interviewing people for a job. One individual
sat down and placed his mobile on the desk. It was a Motorola, nicknamed ‘The
Brick’, because it was the size of one and cost $4995. He explained
he did not wish to leave it in his car for fear of it being stolen.
Anyway, he added calmly, he needed to leave it on because he was expecting
an important business call! How did I feel? Let’s just say he
was never considered for the contract.
So, how did our restaurant scenario
go? When the sales person finished her call, the prospective client
steered the conversation to ‘small
talk’, became reluctant to answer her questions in any detail,
and suddenly appeared most anxious to return to his office.
It only
took 30 seconds, but if she is still wondering why her hot prospect
decided
to stay with his existing supplier, then she need look no further
than the bottom of her handbag.
The culprit is lying there, silent,
but just waiting to go off …
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